Choosing an exterior paint color

This is where I need help.  I cannot choose a paint color for the exterior, and siding will be here on Saturday.  Presently, the existing house is a drab tan.  It's not awful, but I just don't like the sandy color.  I love my juicy red front door that I repainted weeks ago--that's not going anywhere.  But what about the rest of the house?

View from the front gate.  Those bare trees are pretty much all pecans behind the house.

I have always adored a pure white farmhouse, but I fear that will be too stark.  The front of the house is shielded by a grove of live oaks, but the side and back are clearly seen from the surrounding pastures (and that is what surrounds us on three sides--hay and corn--with a pecan orchard behind us to the north).  I don't want my house to be a glaring white structure from the road.

I am leaning towards a lighter shade of grey or maybe I will stick with the white that I love.  I am open to suggestions.  I do intend to use quite a bit of white on the walls in the main living spaces inside, so I am also inclined at least to consider a real color on the exterior rather than a light neutral.  It's not like I have a homeowners' association that is dictating my house color any more.

I need help!  Sound off with any suggestions.  Pictures are below.  Please excuse the construction mess.  (That has been my most commonly used phrase over the last few weeks, I think.)

Existing house with the addition behind.  It's a simple bungalow-style home with minimal detail--a very simple version of a craftsman home.  All my interior mouldings are simple 1x4, 1x6 or 1x8 boards with no detailing.  The kitchen will have all shaker style cabinetry.  We have kept our new windows in line with the original windows and will keep a simple exterior as well.

Southwest side of the house from the horse pasture.  There is still another 600 feet behind where I stood to take this picture before you actually get to the road.

The southwest corner of the house.

Another view from the south.

That live oak in the center beyond the scraggly trees is the tree directly in front of the house.  This is what our house looks like from the highway.  People who have lived in our town for 40+ years had no idea there was a house back there.  Some even argue with me, insisting that they have driven past a hundred times and there is not a house there.  I assure them that my house has been here since at least the 1940s when it was moved from a location somewhere in town.  I like being that obscure.  That is one thing that keeps me from wanting a color like blue or yellow or even white.  I don't want my house color to make us stand out from the highway.

Again, look for the live oaks in the middle and the house is there with them.  The pasture in the foreground will be all hay come spring.  The brown pasture was corn last year.  I'm not sure if it will be again this year.  This is a view from the west.

View from the road on the south side of the property.  

Roofing and windows

We finally had a few days without rain and with temperatures above 40, so the roof supports and rafters started going up.  (It was still crazy windy--as it has been seemingly since the day we moved in--but that didn't seem to slow anyone down too much.)  This is still the heavy-lifting phase, so I really don't have much to do with it except for design input and running to the store when we run out of something.  My husband and father-in-law are running this part of the show for sure.  I have lost track of the hours that my father-in-law has spent over here working on our house at this point.  We think he will finally take a break now that shingles are up.

The peak of the roof doesn't look that high from a distance, but when you look out of one of those second story windows, you realize that it is a long way down.  I think I calculated that the peak is about 30 feet up, hence the giant lift that was rented to get the roof decking and shingles up to the second story.

The lift was also very helpful for getting windows up to the second floor.